October 2, 2008

Book Review: Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina

Steve Pavlina has a new book entitled Personal Development for Smart People. Unlike most self-help books, which focus primarily on techniques, Steve's book focuses on principles.  What he has created with his book is an abstract model and structure for growth.

He elaborates on three primary principles for growth (truth, love, power), three secondary principles (oneness, authority, courage) and one overarching principle (intelligence).  The first part of the book details each of these principles.  He divides each of the principles into several aspects, details common blocks and provides exercises to come into greater alignment with them.

  • Truth consists of 5 parts: perception, prediction, accuracy, acceptance and self-awareness. The blocks to truth are media conditioning, social conditioning, false beliefs, emotional interference, addictions, immaturity and secondary gain.
  • Love arises from connection, communication and communion. The blocks to love are a disconnected mind-set, fear of rejection, incompatibility and a lack of social skills.
  • Power has 6 aspects: responsibility, desire, self-determination, focus, effort and self-discipline. The blocks to power are timidity, cowardice and negative conditioning.
  • Oneness is truth plus love and entails empathy, compassion, honesty, fairness, contribution and unity.
  • Authority is truth plus power. It is built from command, effectiveness, persistence, confidence and significance.
  • Courage is love plus power and consists of heart, initiative, directness and honor.
  • Intelligence is alignment with truth, love and power. Its aspects are authenticity, creative self-expression, growth, flow and beauty.

The second part of the book applies the 7 principles to different areas of life: habits, career, money, health, relationships and spirituality.   The value of the principles becomes clearer as we see how the principles can accelerate growth in each of these areas. The principles can also serve as a diagnostic tool when you are struggling in some area of your life.  For example, if you know what to do but you aren't taking action, you are misaligned with power.  Or if you are getting great results but you are feeling empty inside, you are misaligned with love.

My favourite chapter in the book is Chapter 5: Authority. I especially enjoyed his emphasis on being the highest authority in your own life and refusing to give your power away:

"Despite what you may have been conditioned to believe, there's no higher authority in this life than you-not your parents, your boss, or your favorite supreme being. If you think anyone else has authority over you, it's only because you yield your authority by choice. Sometimes the consequences of not doing so are so severe that you may feel as if you have no choice, but in truth you always do. Even when threatened with suffering or death, you remain the commander of your own life. Some of your choices may be extremely limited, but they're always yours to make."

In general, the material in the book is very dense - the book is full of ideas.  It requires multiple reading to receive maximum value.  Each time I have reviewed the book, I've uncovered a new idea or perspective that I missed the last time around.  It is also a book to reference whenever you are looking to accelerate your growth in a particular area.

Criticisms

My most significant criticism of the book would be the length. It is too short.  There are a lot of ideas in this book but the book isn't long enough to develop some of these ideas fully, particularly in Part 1 of the book. I think he could have gone into greater detail and explained his reasoning when outlining the aspects of each of the principles.  I would have also liked to see more stories, examples and case studies of the principles in action.

Furthermore, I think the book might be somewhat difficult to follow for readers who do not regularly read his blog.  It's easy for a regular reader to fill in the blanks for the reasoning behind some the ideas in the book that aren't given the length they deserve.  For example, Steve writes about relationships existing only in your thoughts.  He has covered similar ideas in his blog before, so it was fairly easy for me to understand.  When a friend of mine who doesn't subscribe to his blog read the book, she felt that the concept was not sufficiently explained and justified.

Applying the Principles

I was interested to see how the principles would apply to being an entrepreneur and running a business. Here's my breakdown:

  • Truth - What is the real purpose of running a business? It is to deliver value. Instead of thinking about how to make more money, think about how to create and give more value to other people. Truth also includes having an accurate perception of your business. Do you have the important numbers (profit, conversion ratios etc.) for your business on hand? Can you easily spot trends using the data you have?
  • Love - if you are going to start a business, it better be something you are passionate about. There is nothing worse than working extremely hard at something you hate to do. Do you feel good about your business? Another aspect of love is treating people like people. Employees are not drones who just keep your business running and help you earn money. Customers are not just sources of cash. Treat people like people - not means to an end. Furthermore, you want to connect with the right people. This includes the right employees for your company that have the strengths and passion that will maximize the results for your business. Connecting with the right customers means finding those people who have a genuine need for your product and with whom you can foster a mutually beneficial relationship.
  • Power - This principle relates to the how of running a profitable business. This means taking action and having the right knowledge. Action requires courage. The knowledge can be gained through a multitude of sources (formal education, experience, mentors, books, seminars).
  • Oneness - Running a business affects man people including both your customers and your employees. In order to be aligned with oneness, you must think win-win. That means paying your employees what they are worth as opposed to trying to squeeze out maximum profit from them. That also means providing genuine value to your customers. Manipulative marketing is not permissible - treat them the way you would want to be treated.
  • Authority - As an entrepreneur, you are the leader of your company. You make the decisions and take responsibility for the results. Take a principle-centered approach to your business that consists of truth, authenticity, compassion, caring, focus and discipline.
  • Courage - Being an entrepreneur is inherently risky. However, taking risks does not mean being reckless. Make sure you take calculated risks, where the odds are in your favor. This principle also entails refusing to give up too early. Many businesses are not highly profitable during the initial stages. Having the courage to stick with it can make all the difference in the long run.
  • Intelligence - It isn't smart to sacrifice long-term growth and sustainability to inflate short-term profits. Although short-term profits provide instant gratification, doing so in a financially irresponsible manner can devalue the business long-term. Just look at the state of the US financial sector.

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Overall, I would definitely recommend that you read this book. Unlike the fluff in many self-help books, the ideas in Personal Development for Smart People are more than feel good filler - they are useful and practical.

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September 24, 2008

Carnival of Self-Mastery - September 24, 2008

Welcome to the September 24, 2008 edition of carnival of self-mastery. My top picks for the week are:
  1. myln presents Small daily tips on building self-confidence posted at ManageYourLifeNow.com, saying, "Self-confidence is an important asset for our mental and physical health and a necessity for a good life. It is not something that one day falls from the sky, or a lottery that a lucky person wins… Self-confidence is build and maintained day by day with simple everyday things."
  2. Razvan Dobre presents 10 Tips On How To Get Over The Need To Be Right posted at RazvanDobre.com Blog, saying, "We all hate when someone tells us that we are wrong and they are right, but what do we do when we are the ones that feel this need to be right? How do you get over the need to be right? Here are 10 tips."
  3. Bill Urell presents Are You Enabling Addiction In The One You Love? The Role of Enabler. +Podcast posted at Addiction Recovery Basics, saying, "Unfortunately, many times, a loved one actually is enabling addiction through their well intentioned desire to help the addict or alcoholic. How does this occur?"

Career & Work

Wally Bock presents 20 Tips for Those Just Starting Out posted at Momentor.

Albert Decker presents Resonant Enigma: Drawing For Dollars posted at Resonant Enigma, saying, "What do you want to do with your talent? . . ."

Great Management presents Sarah Palin and Job Interviews posted at The GreatManagement Blog, saying, "Did you hire the right person for the job? That's the question surrounding political phenomenon and media darling, Sarah Palin. She makes a great first impression. But as charming and likeable as she is, do you honestly think she's the most qualified person to be vice-president of the United States?"

Dating & Relationships

Bill Urell presents Are You Enabling Addiction In The One You Love? The Role of Enabler. +Podcast posted at Addiction Recovery Basics, saying, "Unfortunately, many times, a loved one actually is enabling addiction through their well intentioned desire to help the addict or alcoholic. How does this occur?"

Emotional Mastery

Donald Latumahina presents 30 Simple Ways to Enjoy Life posted at Life Optimizer.

Skyler Reep presents Manage Criticism posted at Skyler Reep's Blog, saying, "For the rest of your life, people will be offering their opinions of you. You will receive criticism on your actions, your words, your choices, your looks…"

Ms. Cheevious presents How to See the Beauty of Life and Enjoy it posted at Ms. Cheevious, saying, "Another adventurous night out enjoying every moment."

Goal Setting & Planning

myln presents Small daily tips on building self-confidence posted at ManageYourLifeNow.com, saying, "Self-confidence is an important asset for our mental and physical health and a necessity for a good life. It is not something that one day falls from the sky, or a lottery that a lucky person wins… Self-confidence is build and maintained day by day with simple everyday things."

David B Bohl presents What Are You Motivated By: Pain or Pleasure? | Slow Down Fast Personal Coaching and Lifestyle Design ~ David B. Bohl posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, "People are motivated by pain than pleasure. In other words, they are more determined to move away from their pain, than they are to move toward pleasure."

Health & Fitness

NickIrons presents Exercise — The Fountain of Youth! posted at Get Results! Fitness Blog, saying, "Exercise is the only proven way to drastically combat aging and to regain your youthful body. In fact, most people are able to regain up to 1/3 of their muscle strength and mass after participating in an exercise program for just a couple of months."

Productivity

Joshua Seth presents Be Here Now | Weight Loss Hypnosis and Personal Development Blog posted at Joshua Seth Blog, saying, "Today’s accelerated learning tip is to focus on one thing at a time. If you want to develop your mind to learn more, retain more, and be able to apply what you know in creative and useful ways then you first need to break the habit of mutitasking. You need to train your mind to Be Here Now as Ram Dass famously wrote over 35 years ago. It’s a topic more recently explored by Eckhart Toole in his book The Power of Now."

Barry Wright III presents Batching: A Productivity Experiment | 3stylelife posted at 3stylelife.

Social Skills

Marcus Smith presents 3 Common Public Speaking Myths Laid to Rest posted at MarcusASmith.com, saying, "Public speaking myths surround us and leave us fearful of something that we really shouldn't fear. Watch as I put 3 speaking myths to bed."

Razvan Dobre presents 10 Tips On How To Get Over The Need To Be Right posted at RazvanDobre.com Blog, saying, "We all hate when someone tells us that we are wrong and they are right, but what do we do when we are the ones that feel this need to be right? How do you get over the need to be right? Here are 10 tips."

Spirituality

Chris presents Return of the Jedi: Five Questions with a Neigong Expert posted at Martial Development, saying, "The esoteric Eastern school known as Mo-Pai has been described as a real-life order of Jedi Knights. Read this exclusive interview with a Mo-Pai disciple."

Daphne presents Trust In God But Tie Up Your Camel posted at Joyful Days, saying, "There is an Arab proverb reminding us that while it’s all very well to trust in providence and have faith that everything will work out, it does not let us off the hook from doing whatever we can at the same time to ensure a favourable outcome."

Erin Pavlina presents Dreams and Predicting Future Events posted at Erin Pavlina's Blog, saying, "I get a lot of emails from people who have had strong, powerful, clear dreams that something disastrous is coming. Some dream that their deceased relative tells them someone in the family is going to die. Some dream of world disasters like hurricanes or earthquakes. Some dream something pleasant like a future wedding to the person they love. But how can you tell if a dream you have is prophetic?"

Time Management

kenny mc bride presents From Dawn Till Dusk, Make The Most Of Every Day posted at Positive Thinking - A Realistic Approach, saying, "The skill of managing your time and your day is all about forward planning and can help anyone to reduce stress and find time to acheive personal goals. Read More.."

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